Prostate massage for beginners to anal play

Try this seven step guide to Prostate Massage for Beginners, courtesy of Nexus

Step 1: Relax and Breathe

Good things come to those who practice! Learning how to deeply relax and connect your mind with your body is vital to the success of your anal explorations with a prostate massager.

Start your session with some deep breathing, and feel how each breath enters and exits your body. Lie down and feel your diaphragm moving.

Concentrate on relaxing each of your muscles and removing expectations of what is about to happen.

Breathe all those old ideas you had about male sexuality out.

Step 2: Arouse Yourself

This part is entirely up to you – do whatever turns you on. Don’t touch your penis, but do feel free to roam the rest of your body, including the anal area. This sends blood and messages to the prostate, penis, scrotum, anus, and abdomen area, warming it up. Put on an erotic movie if you like, just to help things along.

Note: being too aroused, or not aroused enough, can cause problems with your session. Over-arousal can result in impatience, and you might miss important, but subtle, signals. Under-arousal can be caused by a lack of the necessary energy to concentrate and relax into your session. Be well rested and have plenty of private time to experiment.

Step 3: Insert the Prostate Massager

Lie on your side with your knees slightly bent. Make sure the toy has plenty of lubricant on it (you will need to prime the anal area with lube before inserting). Slowly and carefully insert the massager into your anus, breathing and relaxing your sphincter muscles with each exhalation. Fit it completely and comfortably inside your anal canal.

Now just rest, and continue your erotic play as before while your body gets used to it. Don’t touch your penis, and try to be in a position where it is not rubbing on the bed, or your leg. This will distract you from the task at hand, which is meant to be forgetting about your penis and concentrating on the sensations in your prostate, anal canal, perineum and abdomen.

Don’t touch your penis, but feel free to roam the rest of your body including your anal area.

Slowly and carefully insert the Prostate Massager into your anus. For the next 15 min’s or so you will need to adjust to having it inside you, Relax, take deep breaths and continue the erotic stimulation of your mind and body.

Step 4: Breathe and Get Used to it

For the next 15 minutes or so, you will need to adjust to having the massager inside you. Relax, and take deep breaths right down into your abdomen, while continuing the erotic stimulation of your mind and body, avoiding your penis.

Step 5: Start Small Contractions

When you feel comfortable with it inside you, you may feel the swell of your prostate against the toy. The prostate engorges with blood upon arousal, and this is why you can feel it. This is what will provide the stimulation to milk your prostate, and have full body orgasms. The reverberations of the anal contractions will vibrate up the shaft of the toy, into the head, and onto your prostate. To get the ball rolling, try contracting as you breathe in, and letting go as you breathe out. Your untrained muscles will probably quiver involuntarily: this is good, and you will feel the effects in your prostate.

Play around with the contractions and see how it feels with long ones, strong ones, short ones, and weak ones.

Maintaining tautness in the sphincter will cause quivers, which in effect stimulate the prostate in a positive way.

See what feels good, and just play. Keep the erotic stimulation on other parts of your body, and build yourself into a rhythm.

Step 6: Take it further

Lying on your side is the most effective way of having huge full body orgasms, but it may not be how you find success with your toy to begin with. Try kneeling, or lying in another position and see what effects this has on the sensations you feel. Keep breathing, and focus on your prostate and general abdomen area.

There is an acupressure point which is connected to the prostate, penis, scrotum, and anal area in your perineum. Each man is biologically the same, but the spot varies minutely between men. It is normally in the middle of the perineum, between the anus and the scrotum. To find it, make a line from the bottom of your prostate, and dig your finger in and go along until you find a place that feels slightly different. It may be a little sensitive. This is the point. It is not a pleasure spot in itself, but with the aid of a prostate massager with a perineum stimulator, it is often the essential ingredient in achieving the much-coveted male G-Spot orgasm.

Step 7: Keep Practicing

Try different things, read up forums, talk to people. Every man’s experience with a prostate massager is different, but the sensations are normally very similar in the process. If you don’t achieve success right away, don’t panic. Keep trying. The ‘consolation’ prize of an extended and more intense penile orgasm will no doubt sate you until next time you try.